Tips For Confidence

This year, I really want to focus on happiness more than ever. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Sure, we have our days, but to bounce back is what's important. Although human with a natural tendency to feel down here and there, I've become pretty good about feeling and thinking positively, and it's affected me in such a amazing way. One thing that aligns with happiness is confidence. I know how it feels when you get into your glum days where nothing looks right or good enough, or how it is to feel so insecure in this ever so pressured world. I think there are two main key factors to confidence: to not be so hard on yourself and to not compare yourself with others - both of which can be hard at times to avoid. Let me break it down more for you and share some tips.

Don't be so hard on yourself
When you say or think negative things about yourself, whether it be aloud or silently, your self esteem is getting beaten down by those harsh words and it can (and will) take its toll. You start to believe those thoughts, even though they are completely not true. When you're saying those negative words, the only person you are hurting is yourself. Stop those words, stop the thoughts, and open yourself up to happy and kind thoughts. Every single day, try to stop those thoughts. Instead of tearing yourself down, try replacing it with something along the lines of, "I am beautiful. I can do this." It sounds silly, but it has a positive impact, and will impact you more the more you do it. This will help to not only feel great about yourself, but also your attitude towards life will change for the better. 

Don't compare yourself with others
This one can be so incredibly hard to fight. We are constantly surrounded by books, magazines, beautifully edited images, and social media to influence the way we see ourselves. Make sure you aren't comparing your own self to all the ads and photos you see daily. Don't look at someone or something beautiful and let it make you feel any less beautiful. If there happens to be an Instagram account or some source of daily photos that has a negative effect on your self confidence, eliminate it. If you find yourself comparing every little thing about him or her to yourself and life, unfollow. It's nothing personal and there is nothing wrong with unfollowing. Are you getting any real inspiration from the account, or are you just feeling bad every time something new is posted? Surround yourself only with the magazines, people, sources, and books that inspire and motivate you to improve yourself and be happy. 

Unfortunately, lack of confidence is an issue with many, many people. And I can see why  it is. Self confidence is no easy thing to achieve... it took me a long time to be confident in my own skin and love myself for who I was. I still struggle with it from time to time. It's so important that you take the time for yourself and treat your mind, body, and soul the way it is meant to be treated. Drink water, eat healthy, do some yoga or stretch, make art, take a relaxing bubble bath, go for walks, breathe in the fresh air, treat yourself to a facial every once in awhile, drink some tea. How does all of this help to improve self confidence, though? Because it will make you feel ~good~ on the inside, and when you feel good on the inside, you shine on the outside as well. Keep telling yourself that you are beautiful until you believe it, because you are. If anything, fake it 'til you make it. If you start telling yourself you are beautiful, that you can do anything you want, and that the future and opportunities are endless... well, your mind will start to truly believe it and you'll eventually start feeling it. Change your perception open your mind to happiness and light. Just remember, on social media there is always more and lives aren't actually as 'perfect' as they seem, ever. So when you catch yourself comparing yourself to perfect-Pinterest profiles and lifestyles shown on Instagram, remember it's not quite like that in reality. Please love and treasure yourself because there is no one quite like you. There never has and there never will be. 


  1. These are really great tips. It took me quite a bit of time to get out of comparing myself to others.

  2. Confidence is *KEY*! That is the most beautiful thing anyone can have, and it shows! I love your blogs by the way. Did I also mention your layout is so flippin' adorable? Lol.

  3. Much needed post. I lack self confidence and surely not comparing myself with other has surely helped. 😊

  4. I love these tips! We all need more confidence in our life always. Thanks for posting it 😊

  5. Great tips! I really need to stop comparing myself to others. These tips pave a road to a confident new you!

  6. I firmly believe comparison is the thief of joy! It's the most important step to loving myself I had to overcome! Great post!

    xx Heather |


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